Every single time they share it, there you are again, innocently taking a shower after a workout at a gym you pay money to attend, and you are naked. People are outraged, and so am I, but what I don't think they truly get is that every time they share the post, they are spreading that photo around even more, your body reaching the eyes of more people.
I woke up to an article this morning that said Ms Mathers had lost her radio job and been banned from the gym. It also said that she is possibly facing criminal charges. I hope more than anything that the article is true.
Ms Mathers's apology, as lame and self-centred as it was, forgot a key aspect ... you. She apologized to the public. She stated how she is not that kind of person and that she loves the female form, then followed that up by saying the post was meant to be a private one with her friend, but she is new to Snapchat and she'd made it public by mistake. Those apologies were put out there because she knew she'd messed up huge. Career changing huge. What she never did, and to the best of my knowledge still hasn't done, is apologize to you.
You. The woman who went to the gym, did your workout, had a shower and went home, oblivious to the fact that the entire world was now sharing a pic of you over and over and over again. You are still nameless, and I really hope you stay that way. If she isn't going to say it, I will. I am so sorry that so many people have seen that picture. I am so sorry that your friends, your family, and your co-workers have all seen what that nasty woman made public. I am sorry that you had to log in to the internet and feel like your world stopped when you saw that picture for the first time. I am sorry that it's still being shared and spreading even further. I am especially sorry that she made YOU the butt of her joke.
It is people like Dani Mathers that have made me, and so many other women, ashamed of our bodies for their imperfections. Reluctant to put on a swimming suit to go swim with our children in public. Refusing to wear shorts on a hot day, because our thighs don't have even a hint of a "thigh gap". Ashamed of not being like the women we see in the media who always seem to be an unachievable level of perfect. You aren't a big woman. You're an average woman, at a gym, working to improve or keep up a degree of fitness. You are ME. Women need to stick together, not tear each other down, and when she did that to you, she did that to all of us. Dani Mathers may be okay with her own naked body being shown to the world, but for her to do that to you was reprehensible.
Please know that nobody thought her vile joke was funny. You became us - women, and even men, all over the world. And we are angry. People aren't pointing and laughing with her. We are too busy digging out our pitchforks to make sure that she, and people like her, know that this will not be tolerated.
I pray that Dani Mathers is charged for this. Just because her peeping tom pic was not made for reasons of sexual perversions, her actions are no less criminal. An example needs to made here.
As you wake up on day three of this nightmare, please know that we all hurt with you, and that we all stand behind you. The posts need to change to blur out both your body and your face. I know I will spend most of my day emailing websites, asking them to edit the photos in their articles to do just that, and reminding my Facebook friends that their share is exacerbating the crime. I hope others join me in doing the same.
Stay strong, beautiful lady. Please don't let the mean intentions of one sorry excuse for a celebrity change your life. Don't stop doing what you do, or going to the gym or start showering when you get home. Be strong and proud of who you are, giving Dani Mathers a big middle finger while you do it.
A woman who hurts with you